However, prior to taking the responsibility of representing yourself, it is important to consider the legal aspects which should be separated from an emotional aspect of the process. If a person cannot do so, it is best to hire a lawyer because there are many vital issues that need to be dealt properly in order to avoid lifelong negative results. Since divorce is a complex process, being familiar with the state divorce laws is very important and is necessary including the latest version of your states Rules of Civil Procedure, Family Court Codes and your local county court rules where the state law library is the best source of information. And as it was said earlier, the courts are only interested with the legal aspect of the process. If the petitioner files a divorce on the ground of physical abuse or adultery, he/she has to be very careful when filing the petition and filling out the papers. Avoid using fiery words or details of the unsound marital behavior when filing your petition.
Almost all states made the divorce mediation part of the process because it is a substitute to a formal process of divorce court. The couple will have the chance to discuss the best agreement and may resolve the matter without the need of a divorce court. However, if mediation didn't go well, a trial date is being set. The couple will have the chance to debate their case in front of a judge and the judge will then analyze all the evidence and determines the appropriate result and agreement basing on the evidences. In representing yourself to a divorce court, there are some things that need to be considered. Dress conservatively, talk loudly, clearly and politely so that all the participants can hear you, you should address the Judge as “Your Honor” at all times, do not interfere if a lawyer or the Judge is discussing but you may object to a line of questioning. Bringing someone for support is allowed in court but limit the people to bring. And lastly, hold your emotions and focus in proving your case with the appropriate documents. The judge's decision is not based on how much tears a person shed.